There are many things that can influence happiness, including genetics, life circumstances, achievements and social relationships. However, it’s important to remember that much of happiness is under your control.
Having a full tank of happiness makes you more resilient in the face of adversity, benefits your physical and psychological health and helps cultivate positive relationships with family, friends and coworkers.
1. Focus on the positive
Positive thinking can help you navigate challenges with resilience and cultivate a mindset of optimism. Using techniques like noticing thought patterns, challenging negative assumptions, and practicing gratitude, you can learn to shift your perspective toward the positive.
Notice when you have negative thoughts and use a Thought-Stopping Technique (like saying the word “stop” or putting a finger on your wrist). Repeat this action many times to create a physical anchor for the positive thought.
2. Be grateful for what you have
Studies have shown that practicing gratitude can help alleviate stress and increase your sense of well-being. In addition, it can make you more likely to seek social connection.
Focus on the people in your life who bring you joy. Deeper appreciation of your relationships carries greater benefits than simply tallying up things for which you’re grateful.
If there are activities that you used to enjoy but have fallen out of practice, try to reschedule those as often as possible. You may be surprised by how much it can boost your mood.
3. Create a positive outlook
People with positive mindsets handle stress better and bounce back from challenges quicker. They also tend to get more physical activity and follow a healthier diet.
Negative thinking can be hard to notice, so start by focusing on your self-talk and reframe it. For example, instead of “faking it till you make it”, try viewing a situation from a long-term perspective or embracing learning and curiosity.
Also, laugh! This may seem like a no-brainer, but a good laugh boosts mood and can improve mental health.
4. Don’t compare your life to others
Many people equate happiness with material wealth, status, or physical health. While these are important, they’re not the only ingredients to a happy life.
The genuinely happy know who they are and make decisions that align with their values. They also understand that life isn’t always going to go their way, and that’s okay.
Practicing mindfulness, writing down three good things each day (no matter how small), and having healthy relationships all contribute to happiness. But most importantly, a happy life is a choice – one that requires consistent work to sustain.
8. Learn a new skill
Cultivating strong social connections and pursuing physical fitness are two of the best ways to increase happiness. But if you want to feel even happier, consider learning something new.
A positive mindset can lead to greater success in your career and stronger relationships with family and friends. Setting attainable goals and aligning them with your values will also lead to more satisfaction and happiness. Achieving balance in all areas of your life is another key component to happiness.